Here’s what I’m thinking about today: sometimes, being able to plan major life changes is actually harder than just having things happen and dealing with them the best you can.
Like, trying to decide if you should get a new job, one that you’re more passionate about than the one you have. Or, trying to decide if you should have a baby or go back to school, or…any number of huge things. I have several friends who are at this kind of crux point in their lives right now and we’re all talking about what a huge responsibility it is to be able to plan.
When things happen unexpectedly, you go into Penelope Crisis Mode and you do what needs to be done. You deal. And things work out, one way or the other.
But, if you have the luxury of pro-actively making big decisions, you can spend hours listing pros and cons, thinking about “what ifs” and “worst case scenarios”. And that can lead to mountains of fears and then to decision paralysis. Or, it can for me.
I think sometimes life just happening, and then dealing with it, can be easier in a weird way.