My marriage to J is my second, and I know now that happy marriage isn’t luck, or sex, or even just promises of forever. It’s daily maintenance. Not “work”, because I don’t think marriage should feel like work, but maintenance. It’s paying attention and clearing a path for your partner through every day life.
It’s you caring more about him than you care about yourself. That’s not always easy when you’re as busy as we are, right?
Being married to a man like my husband, who loves so completely through actions (every morning I was sick, he cleaned the whole house before leaving for work, so that my mind could be “at ease”. I know.) has taught me the extreme value of doing for each other, rather than just saying “I love you” every day.
I find that my love speaks loudest when I do something for him when I most don’t feel like it. After a long day, when I’ve completed more than I thought I ever could. That’s the time I try to do one extra thing for J. Because that’s when it means the most.
Are you loving through actions today? Are you showing your family that, though your To Do list is miles long, they have a place right at the top of it?
A Penelope Classic post for you while we work to unveil our new website in September.