Our tendency as moms is to do too much. And Penelopes, we are the WORST because we tend to do things ourselves rather than teach our children to do them. Why? Because we’re martyred saints?
No, because we can do the thing faster. And better.
I have a challenge for you:
Find one thing you can teach your child to do himself and then stop doing it for him.
And I’m not just talking about moms of little ones. MOMS OF TEENS: I’M TALKING TO YOU, TOO!
We’re doing our children no favors by doing too much. And, conversely, we do them HUGE favors by teaching them independence at every stage of their development.
This article is a powerful and persuasive piece on WHY it’s so key that we raise independent children. Also, I love what Tsh says here about ways we can do that. And, finally here’s an age-by-age guide with specific tasks you can tackle.
Think of that thing now. It can be something small.
But think of that one thing and commit to it. And I’d love to hear what it is in the comments. We can help each other do this. And then we can promise we’ll take this mental inventory once every 3 months, to empower our children regularly.
I’ll go first: My 4-year-old son is more than capable of wiping his own bum after a #2. But it freaks me out. I realize, however, that he’s starting kindergarten in the fall and he needs to do this himself, reliably and cleanly.
So, I’m committing to giving this task to him completely. He knows HOW, now I just need to consistently let him. Pray for me.